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After a loss, a family learns to widen its embrace

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After a loss, a family learns to widen its embrace

MIAMI (AP) Declan Sullivan would have loved this weekend. For all the doubts his family has confronted in the 27 months since the death of their first-born son, his father is certain about that.

``Like a lot of the kids in our neighborhood, Declan grew up a Notre Dame fan,'' Barry Sullivan said. ``He heard the stories in our house, we took him to games, it was always a part of his experience and in a way, I guess, his identity. That's what made him so determined to go there.

``But as he got a little older, he began to appreciate what made it special, beyond just the football. ... Then he got into business school there and he'd call home, talking about the value of Notre Dame degree.

``And what I remember now, thinking about back then,'' he added, his voice trailing off, ``was how much he'd grown up.''

Declan Sullivan, named after an Irish saint, never got to finish that journey. He was killed in an accident on Oct. 27, 2010 - a fall off a 40-foot lift, from atop which he was taping a Notre Dame practice. He was 20.

What placed him there on a day when wind gusts pushed past 50 mph was the rambunctious spirit he displayed even as a kid, and the dream of getting himself on the football fields at South Bend one day. His family's presence at Monday's national championship game between Notre Dame and Alabama is a way of remembering that spirit, just as they honored his memory by creating a memorial fund - partnering with the Horizons for Youth organization - to help other youngsters set off in whatever directions they chose.

``That was the way Declan was,'' Barry Sullivan recalled. ``When he got something into his head, it was tough to shake.''

His father took it as a sign of his son's growing maturity when Declan altered his plan to get on the field, telling Barry he planned to trade in his shoulder pads and the football team for a trumpet and the jazz band in his senior year of high school. But his plan to make it into the marching band didn't pan out, either. Then one of his professors at Notre Dame mentioned there might be a chance to work as a videographer for the football team, and all those days Declan spent lugging his family's video camera around, filming everything, made it seem a comfortable fit.

When his sister, Gwyneth, followed him to Notre Dame, the Sullivans brought along their third child, Macartan, on road trips from their home in suburban Chicago, and the games became family weekends.

``He'd be assigned to film different aspects of the games, but we'd always all meet up in the same spot, on the walk between the practice fields and athletic department building where he had to turn in his cameras. When we go back there now,'' Barry Sullivan recalled, ``it's still the place we meet afterward.''

A memorial plaque marks the spot now, barely two dozen steps from where Sullivan fell to his death.

``Sadness, I guess is what I remember most about that time,'' Notre Dame lineman Mike Golic Jr., said. ``Declan's a guy we all miss a lot and it's hard to imagine what they went through. I have all the respect in the world for his family, for the way they carried themselves and how they've handled it since.''

In the immediate aftermath, there were fingers pointed, calls for accountability and speculation about lawsuits. The Sullivans anguished over mistakes made, knew only too well his death could have been prevented. Yet they remained quiet throughout.

``We heard it, all of it, the speculation, the liability claims, but that was not our first impulse and frankly, we never found reason to think any differently,'' Barry Sullivan said. ``We kept quiet first out of a respect for privacy and also because an investigation was going on.

``But we never felt the need to pursue any legal action. We never felt like we had to teach anybody a lesson. ... At every juncture, they treated us with kindness and concern, sympathy and obviously, they accepted responsibility for what had happened. We had great sorrow of our own to deal with, but it was plain that they were suffering, too. Maybe if we'd been confronted with a cold, unfeeling institution, we would have felt different.

``But Alison (Drumm, his wife) and I looked at each other and we just kind of realized,'' he concluded. ```If we don't pursue this, nobody else can, either.'''

The state of Indiana and university conducted investigations. Notre Dame paid a $42,000 fine to the state for safety violations.

A moment of silence was observed before the next game against Tulsa, when the Irish came out with shamrock decals with Sullivan's initial on their helmets. The gestures that meant the most to the Sullivans were the private conversations with the Rev. Paul Doyle and university president, the Rev. John Jenkins, whose candid admission in an e-mail sent to the Notre Dame community concluded, ``Declan Sullivan was entrusted to our care, and we failed to keep him safe.''

Some people are dismayed to this day that was enough for the Sullivans. Yet they never looked back, determined only how they could go forward. They wondered about whether they could return to South Bend and find even traces of the joy the place held for them once.

``We had questions, `Would the place seem as special as it did before? Would there always be a cloud over it?''' Barry Sullivan recalled.

``Then, the day after funeral, our daughter took the lead. She had classes the next day and told us, `That's where I want to be.' And the first few times, there was that sense of sorrow. But the memorial helped, the warmth showed by the people who embraced us helped.''

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Wizards at Cavs: TV, live stream and radio info, things to watch

Wizards at Cavs: TV, live stream and radio info, things to watch

Bradley Beal, Otto Porter, Kelly Oubre, Jr. and the Washington Wizards battle LeBron James, George Hill, Larry Nance, Jr. and the Cleveland Cavaliers on Thursday night.

Here is all you need to know: TV, live stream and radio info, tip-off time, plus three things to watch:

WASHINGTON WIZARDS AT CLEVELAND CAVALIERS

Where: Quicken Loans Arena
Tip-off: 8 p.m.
TV: TNT (pre- and postgame coverage on NBC Sports Washington Plus)
Live stream: TNTdrama.com
Radio: 1500 AM

Back in action

The Wizards return to the court after a week-long layoff due to the All-Star break. Add in the fact that they had three days off before their last game and this will be just the second game for the Wizards in the last 12 days. What is this, football?

The Wizards will try to overcome the rust to keep their momentum going. They entered the All-Star break having won seven of their last nine games. Though the time off was needed due to a wide array of injuries, the Wizards had a good thing going and will aim to recapture that against a good Cavs team.

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Tough stretch

The Wizards come back with a game against the Cavs, a difficult first assignment after such a long layoff. But this is just the beginning of what will be a very difficult part of their schedule. In their next 17 games, the Wizards will play 15 times against teams currently holding playoff spots. That includes the Warriors, Celtics, Spurs and Raptors.

The schedule is tough beyond their opponents. Four times in the next three weeks they will play back-to-back games and they have five games in the next seven nights. Hopefully the players recharged their batteries because it won't be easy.

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New-look Cavs

The Wizards and Cavs have played twice this season already and Cleveland took both of those matchups. However, that was all before the trade deadline when the Cavs overhauled their roster. They have won all three of their games since and look rejuvenated with younger players.

Now surrounding LeBron James are a host of new faces like George HIll, Rodney Hood, Jordan Clarkson and Larry Nance, Jr. It will be interesting to see how the Wizards match up with this new group.

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Bradley Beal thoroughly impressed by LeBron James after being his teammate at All-Star Game

Bradley Beal thoroughly impressed by LeBron James after being his teammate at All-Star Game

As a member of the Washington Wizards, Bradley Beal has had many battles with LeBron James over the years, first with the Miami Heat and now with the Cleveland Cavaliers. Over the weekend, Beal got to experience having James as a teammate for the first time at the All-Star Game in Los Angeles.

It was an eye-opening endeavor. Beal got to see up close and personal James' abilities and his routine to maximize them. In a group of the best players on the planet, James stood out.

"It was surreal at first, just being around all the guys," Beal said. "Even just being on his team for two days, that was an unbelievable experience."

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Beal, 24, is six seasons in to his NBA career and from experience has learned how to train for the rigors of an 82-game regular season. What James does at 33 years old to stay in peak form, however, is next level.

"To see his preparation, his focus and his mentality and what he does to take care of his body before and after games," Beal said. "That's the true testament to a Hall of Famer and one of the best to ever play the game."

James actually assisted Beal's first points in the All-Star Game, a two-handed dunk in the first quarter. James attacked the rim on a fastbreak to draw attention, then found Beal with a dump-off pass for an easy bucket.

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It was an example of James' tricks of the trade. He is not just the most athletic player on the court, he is also the smartest when it comes to the game of basketball.

"His approach and his leadership and everything, it's top notch. It's crazy because you always play against him and to play with him, you get experience the other side of it," Beal said.

Beal, however, did note that much of what he gleaned from James was by watching him. At the end of the day, they are competitors and James isn't going to give away all of his secrets.

"He's not disclosing that information," Beal joked.

The Wizards happen to play James and the Cavs in their first game back from the All-Star break on Thursday night. Once again, Beal will be on the other side. 

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